Old rusty windmills and “Mom is always working!”

Every one of us Makers who’s growing a dream, building a business, or trying to see our project turn into something rewarding knows the feeling of hitting a “stop point.” I call it flatlining.

We do everything to push things along, then as our returns start sagging, we slow down and eventually slide to a full, disappointed stop.

This is your dream, your baby, your idea or talent starting and stopping like an old rusty windmill.

You use all your resources. You Flowdream. You look up strategies on websites. You get a little lost and take a stab at a few things until again you slide to a halt.

• You have an email list that’s half built.

• You have ideas for a website, but no site (or the one you made yourself 4 years ago).

• You have flyers for your sessions but they sit on your desk undistributed.

• You have names of prospects for your business but you have phone-phobia and no one ever gets a call from you.

• You attended two conferences and three online summits to learn how to monetize your make, but now you don’t have time to implement anything you learned. You never open your notebook that you wrote so excitedly in all those days.

Paper Flowers, Authentic Expression, and “Making”

Let’s Talk Making Each Day Count

I just spent the day in Old Town San Diego. It’s the historic spot of our town where the original settlers put up their houses along the El Camino Real trail. You get to eat truly excellent Mexican food and dress up in old-timey clothes for photos as you wander the old streets.

I haven’t been there in years since I was a kid. I remember pining for bouquets of those giant bright Mexican crepe paper flowers there … and my mom getting me weird-tasting sarsaparilla candy instead.

I looked around and thought about all these people making things and manifesting their authentic expression: Making art, making food, making music, making sales, making laughter, making memories.

Everything we do, all the time, is Making. Even when we’re binge-watching a Netflix show, we’re making ourselves relax.

Flowdreaming Podcast 573: How to Get More Clients

A tutorial! How did Summer build M.E. School? And her Flowdreaming website?

Summer shares how she uses non-physical energy to shore up all the physical things she does to spread the word about Flow. Learn how and where YOUR tribe is, and how you can collect them around you with a lot less effort that you’ve probably been putting in. Use the My Hugely Successful Business Playlist at Flowdreaming.com for the next step.

In this episode:

3:55 – Find out Summer’s recommendation for growing a thriving business

5:05 – Discover why your client base is bigger than you think

6:30 –  Hear about a bad habit you might have that can affect your ability to attract clients

10:36 – Learn Summer’s technique for looking for clients

23:03 – Find out how your energy base can work for and against you 

27:10 – See what you can do to avoid burnout when growing your business

Flowdreaming Podcast 600: Creating Work-Life Balance

Is there such a thing as work-life balance, or is it a mythical creature we’re all searching for?

As energy flows, so your heart goes. Let’s find the best ways to keep ourselves in balance and allow the treasures from all parts of our lives to flourish. Get into balance with the Program My Amazing Day Meditation + Flowdream Playlist at Flowdreaming.com.

In this episode:

5:15 – Learn how work-life balance can become a habit we fall into

7:45 – Discover exactly what it is that always tips you out of balance 

9:40 – Break down your life’s balance into these three areas

13:35 – Hear Summer’s key to maintaining her balance

21:23 – Do this exercise with Summer to find out how you can discover the imbalance and how to fix it

The emperor wears no clothes

It’s cold – as in air-conditioning cold – in the hotel conference room. I’m gathered with a bunch of other women at a self-development conference, and we’ve been picking apart our lives (in between shivering or baking) all weekend.

Many of the women are coaches. In fact, I’d say 80% are, which is why this weekend has been so difficult for us.

You know the old saying: “The emperor has no clothes”? It refers to a fairy tale in which an emperor is hoodwinked into believing that two tailors have made him the most handsome outfit in the world. However, if you’re stupid or ignorant, he’s told, you can’t see the clothes. Of course, this is all bullshit and the tailors made nothing. The emperor walks naked down the street in a procession, yet all his townsfolk except one honest child are afraid to say what they really see.

Today we use this phrase to mean that we sometimes portray things about ourselves to others that are deeply untrue, because we’ve hoodwinked our own selves into believing them. It means we can be hypocrites, that we’re false under our own words.

I find that coaches often carry this energy in their own Flow. It’s embarrassing. Here we are, leading people into knowledge and guiding them toward their desires, while our own desires are unfulfilled and we fail to follow our own advice.

Think: the plumber whose own pipes are always broken. The accountant whose own accounts are a mess. You get the idea.

The question is: Does this mean we’re truly illegitimate? Hypocritical? Are we sipping our own Kool Aid? Are we wearing no clothes?