I always see you loving yourself last

I always see you loving yourself last.

Why are you doing that? Loving yourself last, I mean. Who taught you that? It’s terrible. Stop doing it. Stop it so your own kids won’t learn that from you.

Oh someone told you that good people put themselves last? Do unto others before you do unto you?

You ever see those old Looney Tunes Chip and Dale cartoons?

The two chipmunks are so over-giving (“You first. No you first!”) that neither of them gets anything. They can’t receive. It’s a lose-lose. And we laugh at it since we get it so deeply somehow.

And forget that stuff about being a saintly martyr. You aren’t a martyr because you like it. You hate it. It boils your blood and makes you feel lonely and righteous. These are horrible feelings.

You put yourself last because you’re scared, baby. You’re scared that if you put yourself first, all those delicate relationships around you will get rocked. You think your family will suffer, your friends will call you braggy, and your boss will wonder why you’re no longer a team player.

You think that if you shine, and give yourself what you need first, you’ll be a selfish little pisspot like all those other selfish little pisspots you see and hate out there. Self-serving bitches. 

Except, you could never be that. You don’t ever need to fear that. 

Flowdreaming Podcast 604: Defending Your Limitations? I Think Not.

I have a limit of 3. You can defend your limitations three times, then my empathy ends.

 You need a call to action. You need to embrace possibility. I work like mad to see and defeat my own limitations, so let’s take a look at what limitations are, and how to beat them (with Flow, of course). Break through your own limitations with the Reclaim My Power and Speak My Truth Playlist at Flowdreaming.com.

In this episode:

5:45 – Discover why we defend the things that hold us back and hold us down.

8:15 – Find out how Summer works with people to dig into their patterns behind their self-limitations.

10:45 – Learn how you can reject your old truth and create a new one for yourself.16:50 – Take a look at your limitations and change how you view them so that you can move through them.

Flowdreaming Podcast 599: Lost (and Found) Inner Children

Sweet child of mine!

What does that inner baby inside have to say to you? How much attention have you given them? Do they come out into your life and play, or do you keep that ‘little you’ locked up in your parental jail? Let’s find your lost inner child and let them out to create some sparkle and joy in your life.

Spend some time with me as we coax out that little boy or girl in you who wants to skip, dance, jump and sing. We look at our inner child as not someone who needs fixing, but as someone who’ll fix us.

Then help your own kids with the Playlist Flowdreaming for Children at Flowdreaming.com.

Sword of Damocles

Caution: This is a morbid yet strangely happy post. It’s a weird post for me. It’s for all of you who are fogged out in the stressed-out  “just getting by” zone, and for those of you who are just depressed as all hell. I have words about this. Read on.

I just got my second clear MRI. No cancer.

MRIs suck. It’s not the needle in your arm, the cold medicine injected up your veins, the tight white sterile tube you’re sucked in, or the grinding, deafening  sounds that rip through your body. That’s all fine.

It’s the wondering what they see. And that you have to wait. And that those pains I have might go unexplained, which is better than if they DO get explained . . . as cancer.

I rose up high in relief for an evening after my doctor emailed me that they saw nothing. Year 3. You got more time, Sum.