Flowdreaming Podcast 608: Able to Float (Softening into Life)

Work, work, work. Get ahead, do the right thing. Succeed. Be perfect.

 After awhile, the hamster wheel slows. Maybe we retire. Maybe we burn out. Maybe we’re facing (or recovering from) an illness. Maybe we’re in that long stretch between jobs, or careers. And we realize ”¦ we don’t know how to float, to soften in. We lost the ability to trust, and revel in the delightful things. We frantically push out of this phase instead of releasing into it. We are afraid to stop hustling and just enjoy. And even if you do, we time-limit the experience. If this is you, then listen in to learn how to soften, deepen, and cherish this phase instead of fighting it. My Easy, Flowing Life Playlist can help.

In this episode:

5:08 – Discover the patterns we have that pull us into resistance when things are going well

7:18 – Find out how most of us spend the majority of our time in stress

11:20 – Learn what “learning to float” means

12:30 – Hear how trust plays a huge part in how we can enjoy life

15:00 – Get into a mini Flow with Summer taking you to a place of relief

Flowdreaming Podcast 606: The Real Reason We Procrastinate or Avoid

Avoidance”¦aversion”¦procrastination…denial.

What happens when you’ve created certain no-go zones in your life and Flow? Take a look at the energy components of what it means to not see, do, think about, or let yourself feel certain things. For more, try the Get Unstuck Playlist at Flowdreaming.com.

In this episode:

2:20 – Find out what procrastination is really about and what’s behind it

5:40 – Discover we say “no” to some things and yes to others

6:52 – Summer gives you the first of three points to get things moving and happening in your life

11:10 – Learn how staying in the waiting zone deprives you of your ability to live your life

15:10 – Listen to find out if you’re sliding from practical waiting into holding yourself back

24:52 – Summer reveals her some details about next program, an affordable program designed for makers!

28:55 – Discover the best thing you can do when you wake up each day to overcome procrastination! It’s easier than you think.

30:45 – Learn one move you can make that will make you feel lighter than you have in ages!

33:15 – Hear how letting go of “perfect” will help you get things moving.

36:00 – Find out how fear works against you to protect you, and how to get beyond it.

Ms. Goalypants

Hey there, Ms. Goaly-pants. Ease up.

If January (and all its goal-setting hoohaw) is sitting hard on your heart, then here is a reframe.

Relax. Breathe.

Most of us tend to overcomplicate everything because we’re driven by lack-thinking. And so we spend our days trying to be super on top of everything so nothing bad will happen. It’s frickin’ exhausting.

Now add those new January goals to the list. Arggh! Do you see why you don’t keep them?

The idea of living in a state of ease has become an ideal for most of us. Instead, it’s all: Goals! Work! Goals! Work!

Letting go and trusting Flow is apparently only what you get to do when you retire. (As in: hard work, frustration, and sacrifice now . . . ease later.)

Overcommitted exhaustion and continuously feeling behind or “not as good as”become the default energies that show up in every area of our life. And, instead of ending up successful, we end up burned out, cranky, unhealthy, and often with lower self-esteem than when we started.

Here’s the email that provoked this thought in me:

I used to think life was fair

I used to think life was fair: If I played by the rules, bad stuff wouldn’t happen. Now I know that those rules are bunk.

I received an email this morning from someone that puts into words exactly how I used to feel:

She wrote: “We couldn’t afford much as we went through our layoff with our newborn and toddler in tow, but we managed to pull ourselves up by our bootstraps in the end. For quite awhile there, our life was a chaotic storm. We couldn’t see anything but the nightmare around us…we didn’t understand…we were educated professionals who played by the rules…why is this happening to us?!”

I know that feeling so well. It’s pure disillusionment.

But when you get past this, you become free. Absolutely free.

Here’s why:

We all have a set of rules that we play by. And we get really upset when other people break these rules, and seem to suffer no consequences.

(Have you ever wished someone you despise would get a broken leg, but they NEVER do, and worse, better and better things keep happening to them? If you have, you’ve got to keep reading.)

We also get bummed when we ourselves do everything right, and then one day we get completely dumped on.

I felt this way when I left my corporate job. It wasn’t fair that I was making the company multi-millions each year through our new division, and no one saw or cared about what I had given them, even when the numbers were staring them right in the face.

I felt this way, too, when I got cancer at 43. I eat organic foods, was vegetarian for 24 years, and I’ve probably swallowed more herbs and vitamins than most people will consume in a lifetime. So, cancer? Seriously?

It’s not fair.

However…thank God I’ve gotten over fairness!!!! 

Hear me: Fairness can hamstring you and hold you back in ways you can’t imagine. Let’s turn this concept on its head. 

Ready to go break a ceiling in your thinking?

I’ve got a much better strategy to play by!!! 

Do you want to find out what it is???

I love myself…but you loving me? That’s more difficult.

Honestly I’ve started and stopped writing this email at least three times. Not only have I not written anything to you in several months (aside from my newsletter last week), but now that I am, it’s incredibly hard to get my thoughts focused.

It’s that “I don’t know where to begin” paralysis.

So how about this: right now, my daughter Lexi is sitting on the bed with me eating chocolate covered strawberries. I’m laying down with bloody drains coming out of my side, trying to take as little pain medication as possible. I just had a mastectomy.

Every day this week, my friends have been bringing my family meals. It’s only the fifth day after surgery and already my refrigerator is stuffed full. My bestie Jen sent the chocolate strawberries. I have bouquets of flowers surrounding my bed and heaps of cards on my table.

And part of me wants to text everyone and tell them to stop sending things and bringing food, because I’m fine goddamit, and then another part of me reminds me that I still need help just putting my clothes on, or brushing my hair.

I know this might be a surprise. People who live a “straight and narrow holy life” aren’t supposed to get things like cancer, are they?

I remember feeling the same way when Wayne Dyer, my radio cohost for many years, got leukemia. And when Debbie Ford, another friend, got cancer. And when Jerry Hicks got cancer.

It doesn’t make sense. Yet of course it does make sense, if we only had the wherewithal to know what was really going on Upstairs.

Nevertheless, I’m going to save the “why I manifested cancer” epistle for another post, because instead I need to explore something more immediate that’s popped up that I’m struggling to understand in terms of Flow, which is how to receive.

Yep, that old bad boy, coming around for yet another round.

What an irony, I think, that I’ve practiced the art of Flowdreaming and manifesting to where I create some truly dazzling things, but even so, here I am rubbing up again against that same ceiling.

You know how I found it this time?