I know you want to help someone to change. They aren’t going to. Now what?

How can you make someone change? You can’t. Honestly, you can’t. But there is something you can do.

You know that feeling when someone you love keeps telling you to act different, be different? Spend your money differently, show up at work differently, show up in bed differently? You know how annoying that is? How you just want to smack them?

You wonder where they get off thinking that not only do they get total control over their own life, but now they think they get control over yours too? No way buddy. You get your life, I get mine.

Well they think this same way about you, so if you won’t change for them, they’re not going to change for you either. 

Now what? 

There’s actually a way to make some movement on this.

Mining the dark

Mining the Dark

Some periods in your life are just . . . slow. Like ol’ Greek Sisyphus, rolling a rock up a hill over and over, it feels like all the work we do nets no results, no rewards.

It feels like you’re laboring in the dark, and the results of our efforts are totally inscrutable.

You wonder if there is a point. Or if you’re even on the right track at all.

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Yesterday I had lunch with my mom. I told her she sounded tired. She is. She’s been fighting rats in her attic. Rats that led her to a rat company that rips off seniors and sells them huge rat-reduction packages, then does no work.

She’s tired of rats, tired of rat companies, tired of patching holes and arguing for her money back, and lunch seemed like a much better idea.

Our pricey fish plates arrived. Eh, so-so. Undercooked, cold, and dry.

“Happy birthday,” she says to me, “This is your birthday lunch.”

Flowdreaming Podcast 607: Where Tiny Steps Can Lead

Flow is all about shifting and flowing in the right direction.

It’s about micro steps and tiny choices. The biggest mountains can be moved with a shovel”¦.if you remain consistent. We’ll look at where you allow yourself to make these easy tiny shifts, and where you don’t, and free up any stuck spaces. Come join me! Try the My Easy, Flowing Life Playlist at Flowdreaming.com for support.

In this episode:

7:35Hear how Summer incorporates tiny shifts into her life 

8:05Learn how Summer works with people to discover how they are creating in their lives and what they can do to be more effective

8:55 – Discover the first tiny step you take to achieve bigger goals and how you build on that in Flow

11:05Discover why comparing your life to others doesn’t work

12:00Summer shares an example of how tiny steps can take a business from an idea to a reality

15:00Listen to hear when it’s time to take the big leap and how the tiny steps made it possible

17:45 –  Ask Flow to give you more tiny shifts in your life every day so that you can build anything you want on them

Flowdreaming Podcast 605: Five Ways to Feel Better Right Now

Lousy day? Lousy week? How do you shift energy so you get out of the everything-is-icky rut?

I share my five go-to’s for changing my energy instantly. Come shift yours right now, with me, in Flow. Then keep that shift by using the Flowdream Super Inner Yumminess at Flowdreaming.com.

In this episode:

3:30 – Discover the simplest way to immediately calm and reset yourself and why it works

4:55 – Summer shares one of her most popular products that at 5 minutes long, instantly changes your day!

6:25 – Learn how a gratitude practice works to shift your mindset.

9:20 – Find out why what you don’t want, expect or enjoy is necessary to help you shift.

11:05 – Learn how embracing saves you from spending your energy on the wrong things.

Flowdreaming Podcast 601: Tradewinds – Sensing Direction and Change

When you sense a big change afoot, what happens if other people don’t?

Do you feel like the smart lone wolf or insecure Chicken Little? Even more importantly, how do handle upcoming change? Let’s pick up some good tips and even Flowdream for our best possible outcomes. Master change with the Restored, Aligned & In Control Meditation Playlist at Flowdreaming.com.

In this episode:

3:15 – Hear how Summer feels the coaching industry is evolving

7:45 – Discover where in you life you tap into change

10:25 – Find out the most important thing you need to know before entering the information economy

15:15 – Learn how and why technology has affected every industry at some point

17:10 – Hear the two distinct, extreme ways you can go into change

21:10 – Discover Summer’s recommendation for getting restored, aligned and in control!

29:51 – Get into Flow with Summer around embracing change.