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Sucky jobs & pre-existing patterns

Entrepreneurs, Jobs & Work, WealthMarch 31, 2015 17 Comments

One of my students, Maddy, is telling me that she’s waking up at night, panicky, worrying that she’s going to lose her house when they lay her off at work. She doesn’t know when the layoffs will come.

She’s living in a constant state of low-level fear, feeling horribly frustrated and powerless. She’s even applied for another job in the same field that she doesn’t even want, and afraid they’ll reject her.

Last night, another student, Claire, told me that she’s already lost her job and now she’s dreading finding another even as the bills are piling up, since the jobs are always the same low-level, horrible, mind-numbing kind. She’s been on a merry-go-round of them for twenty-five years. Her credit card is stacked up with debt.

Both Claire and Maddy have the same emotional energetic pattern. Let’s pull it out into the sunshine and take a look.

I ask Maddy why she thinks she can’t be happy in a career.

She answers, “My parents always said ‘just get a job. No one likes their job. Everyone just does one. That’s the way it is. Just get through it.’”

“And that’s what you’ve been doing?”

She tearfully nods and chokes out, “Yeah.”

“Do you think I hate my job?” I ask.

“No.”

“Does my husband hate his job as a designer? Do you think my mom hates her job? Did my aunt hate her job teaching English as s second language? Does my cousin hate his job as a chef?”

No, no, no, and no.

“And do you think we have jobs we love because we’re special or smarter or something? In other words, different or better than you?”

“Yes,” she practically whispers.

You don’t always need a “why” (or, “How to fill your well”)

Meditation, SpiritualityMarch 18, 2015 13 Comments

I’m lying on the floor in a stranger’s house while the house’s owner plants crystals around the room, lights candles, and swishes the air with her arms.

There’re about nine of us lying like packed sardines on yoga mats in her small living room, covered in blankets. We are about to go on a shamanic meditation journey.

I have absolutely no idea what this means or even what we’re going to do next.

When my friend asked me to join her for the event, I said “sure” without thinking, and now here I am.

I’ve been smoked with burning sage, made awkward chitchat, and now we’ve settled down to business.

The leader is powerful gal, and I can tell she’s very comfortable with us as she settles in to guide the group. I decide I’m going to trust her.

Where are we going? I wonder. And, What are we even doing to get there?!

Turns out, we’re practicing a kind of meditation that encompasses rigorous, controlled breathing until we reach a euphoric state.

“Ok,” I think, “maybe I’ll just Flowdream a little while I breathe.”

I mean, it’s what I usually do during savasana (the meditation portion of yoga class) anyway. It’s my default, go-to, feel-good practice.

And what’s more, I’m good at it, so I get to feel productive and powerful and a tiny bit self-congratulating about my expertise.

Which is probably exactly why as I start the breathing meditation, I feel a booming command: “No Flowdreaming, Summer.”

What the heck?

Should I get a Tesla? (or “How to spot lack thinking anywhere.”)

Entrepreneurs, WealthOctober 14, 2014 12 Comments

Some of you read about my recent car fire/spontaneous combustion.

We’re driving a rental now and looking around for a model we want.

I decided that I have to at least test drive a Tesla.

And that’s what got me thinking about my ceilings again.

I mean, wow, like, a Tesla? Really?!

That’s when I really GOT that we can afford one.

My golly gosh has my life changed.

I’m a stay at home, minivan-driving mom with two kids in grade school. I work from a tiny front bedroom I converted into an office, in a 1970s suburban track home that will barely FIT a Tesla in its garage.

A pool party and a fire-balled car…my Saturday night

Change & Transitions, Family, Health & Wellness, LuckSeptember 30, 2014 9 Comments

Last night, my husband’s car caught fire and blew up in the street. It was parked in front of our house.

Around his car were twenty other parked cars owned by the parents of most the kids in my daughter’s 6th grade class.

What the heck happened?

The backstory:

Our daughter Lexi is in Cotillion.

In San Diego, at least, Cotillion is a Madmen-style 1950s-1960s last-ditch attempt to teach our kids wedding dances and manners before they head into middle school.

The kids suffer through instructions and dances in hot stuffy suits and scratchy dresses and pantyhose at a very classy racetrack ballroom.

I offered to host a little swim party after the kids’ first lesson to help break the ice, since few 6th grade boys relish wearing ties and dancing with girls. I asked all the parents to come too, to help us get to know each other.

So the kids are having a great time cannon-balling in the pool, my husband is mixing margaritas faster than the parents can gulp them, and the front and back doors to our house are wide open with parents and kids spilling from front-yard to back.

At around 10 pm, one dad says, “What’s that?” and points out the front door.

My god, that’s a fireball in the street.

That’s my husband’s car.

Do you know how to let the genie out of the bottle?

Entrepreneurs, Passion & PurposeSeptember 3, 2014 2 Comments

Self-Trust + Manifesting (creation)

The two together are all you need to build a happy life. It works. Period. I just proved that to myself again. When are you going to prove it to YOURself?
This is the point of Flowdreaming: to create things that sell out or expand or take you to your next level; to create relationships that make your heart sing; and to cultivate and follow your self-trust so you know that whatever you choose to do next, it’s what will bring you the feelings you’ve been yearning for all these years.

What ever happened to sweet little Flow??

Change & Transitions, Entrepreneurs, Spirituality, UncategorizedJuly 29, 2014 Leave a comment

I’ve known this question was coming for a while: “What happened to sweet loving Flow and manifesting!? Why are all your emails now about ‘going big,’ owning your power, facing fear, and on and on? Holy mackerel!

What happened to all your sweet flowy lovey stuff about ease and the Flowdreaming technique and all that?”

Hahaha! Okay, that’s a compilation of questions a few brave souls have asked.

Here’s the answer: I’ve written for YEARS about how to get into alignment.

With yourself, with your future, with your flow.

How to find your Flow, and stay in it, and play and create in it! And how the Universe really LISTENS and OFFERS itself to you, everyday. And how when you’re truly in Flow, everything you do is 100% easier and more rewarding. And I probably will write about all that again, maybe even soon.

But some big, huge issue began pestering me a while back, having EVERYTHING to do with manifesting and Flow-my manifesting, your manifesting, all of us and all our Flows.

There’s nothing to see here, folks

Entrepreneurs, Passion & Purpose, SpiritualityJuly 9, 2014 28 Comments

Last night, I dreamed I was doing some kind of martial arts routine that ended with me doing a one-handed handstand on an ancient fallen log. Some martial arts type masters walked by, and one stopped and suggested a complicated routine for me.

I stared back, confused. “You must have mistaken me for someone who actually knows that stuff,” I tried to say. I felt unmasked, mistaken for someone more qualified.

Funny huh? On the one hand, it could be a dream about insecurity, a fear of not living up to my actual ability. Obvious conclusion, right?

Nope, wrong.

Going big: The 2nd sign that you could be at a tipping point to a major breakthrough

Change & TransitionsDecember 12, 2013 1 Comment

In my last post, I introduced the idea that there are certain signs that happen when people are on the verge of a major breakthrough.

This is when someone suddenly zooms into success in their career, or makes dramatically positive moves in their life, or even reaches an ah-ha moment that transforms how they live and feel forever after.

We all want to reach these moments.

In all the work I do teaching and mentoring people about how to Flow, I see people bloom into these game-changing moments pretty regularly. I call them “tipping points.” I can spot when my students are there.

Here’s the second clue I often see when they’re reaching one:

2. You consciously and completely decide to get uncomfortable – often REALLY uncomfortable – in certain areas of your life.

You either decide that facing fear is actually a kind of fun activity (like the coexistent dread, joy, and fierce challenge of running a marathon), or, even if you still hate facing fear, you make a commitment that when Flow is kind enough to reveal a fear, you’re strong enough to chase it down and root it out. Without exception.

Going big: The first of 3 clues that you’re on the verge of a major breakthrough to Success

Change & TransitionsDecember 4, 2013 1 Comment

It’s time to go big.

No, I don’t mean our waistlines, despite all those yummy holiday cookies.

I mean our “mind-lines.”

All year, I’ve been chewing at this. What does GOING BIG really mean?

What’s all this stuff about “upleveling” your life, moving past blocks, and all that other fancy-schmacy talk for somehow breaking through a barrier in your thoughts or emotions?

I’ve been thinking deeply about why some people seem to race to the top of their profession, or have a breakthrough moment in their happiness level, or fall deeply, completely, and unexpectedly in love…

Why do some people seem to suddenly zoom past some limit that puts them in another stratosphere of living, while others just toil on?

I’ve been thinking so much about this because of YOU, all my friends and clients in my Mentoring Program.

Many of you have been breaking these barriers all year, and I’ve been closely following, always amazed when you each reach that inscrutable point (just like on the Daily Deal website) where you “tip.”

Like popcorn going off in a pan, what is the exact set of circumstances that make you “pop” past your old barriers and ways of thinking, and fully embrace a new world in which YOU are a powerful creator and manifestor, and nothing is outside of possibility for you anymore?

What is the common point, and the circumstances that lead to that moment?

Based on watching dozens of you do it, I’ve come up with five signs that you’re on the verge – the “tipping point” – of a major breakthrough in your thinking, success level, and in your life. Here’s the first:

“Oh Lord, let anything hurtful spit me out like a bad peanut.”

Change & Transitions, Jobs & Work, Passion & Purpose, ResistanceJune 29, 2013 1 Comment

Remember that scene in Charlie and the Chocolate Factory, when Veruca Salt gets tossed down the chute for being a “bad peanut?” What a right and fitting end for her, we all thought.

As a bad peanut, Veruca was ejected from her situation. And, oddly, I find myself thinking along similar lines often in my life, whenever I say some variation of that to myself, usually something like, “If it isn’t in my Flow, it won’t stick. My Flow will reject it like a bad peanut” Or, “This bad situation can’t touch me, since I don’t resonate with it one tiny bit!”

I talk to a lot of people on my podcast and in the private sessions and workshops I hold. There are always people who have the same gripe, which goes like this:

“YOU have a great life. You’re lucky. But I have a horrible job that I dread going to – it’s SO mind numbing. And as for my husband and family…ugh, there’s constantly some problem! But YOU – you have an easy life because nothing bad ever happens to you. You’re lucky! Why?!”

Yikes. My hypothetical client has a lot of ugly situations in her life. And these situations should be rejecting her like a bad peanut – the kind where you eat one out of the bag and then spit it out in surprise, half-chewed, because it tastes like something died in it? That kind of bad situation.