You’ve blown my mind. Over 200 of you replied to my last blog, “No More Pretty,” or emailed me personally with love.
Wow, has this been a big a lesson for me.
First of all, I wrote that newsletter (about my new bald life) to give you permission to let go of any hidden need to come across to the world a certain way.
I wanted you to share in my liberation by finding one of your own hidden needs to release.
So I asked you to post your personal liberation, or revelation, whatever that may be.
You know what you all told me instead? That I’m pretty no matter what. Holy heck that was sweet.
Even my hairdresser texted me that I rocked the fake Mohawk in my photo (and good god she sure hasn’t seen me for awhile!).
And it overwhelmed me. All of it.
Because of course it gave rise to another thought: I’m not a loner or a solo flyer anymore. I can drop that belief now.
So there I was thinking about this as I was zipping up the freeway to Long Beach for my next cancer treatment. My mother was driving and as usual we were getting lost and chatting about work, life, kids, and yeah, chemo.
The whole time, my phone was beeping and buzzing with your comments pouring in.
And I’m wondering: “All these people really care. Why?!”
And that’s when I realized that you all are part of my team. Right there in the car with me.
You think you’re learning from me, perhaps, about Flowdreaming, and manifesting, intuition, power-building, emotional clearing, healing”¦or any of my favorite subjects.
But this year, you’ve also been teaching me.
So let’s talk TEAM. Because bingo, you’re on it.
I’ve never thought of myself as a team player. I didn’t do team sports. I had to thrash my way through the corporate world, never building the bridges I’d wanted to build. I finally decided I just wasn’t a good boss, that everyone was too competitive and I wasn’t clever enough to compete. I didn’t think I was a very good networker either, or even an especially good friend. Not a team player. Does not play well with others.
And there things stood for a long, long while.
Then something changed.
I think it really started with my private coaching students, and then with M.E. School.
I just wanted to teach what I knew. What I’d been born with (the intuition) or discovered (the Flow), or nurtured painfully into my awareness over my life (such as the processes and techniques to trigger the awakenings I needed).
And so a tribe came, in huge numbers.
But what’s happened as well-almost a side-effect- is that every relationship in my life has deepened or expanded these last few years.
I gained a team. No, wait…teams.
My team of coaches and my M.E. School, Personal Mastery, and Diamond students keep me growing and pushing into new insights and strength-for them as much as for me.
My team of health care professionals (oncologists, acupuncturists, massage therapists, personal trainer, and holistic health practitioners) show me how to stay healthy.
My team of over 48 friends (I didn’t know I had 48 friends!) signed up on my MealTrain calendar to help me (a cool website where people can bring you meals when you’re going through a health crisis).
My family regularly comes to clean my house, wash my clothes, watch the kids, and give Charles and me a break.
My team of employees stepped in when I asked them very humbly to help me “hold my baby business” this year while I underwent treatment. And they have done so beautifully.
Which has all made me seriously ask myself, a former “solo flyer,” How the hell did I create this?? How did I become part of all these loving, caring teams when “Team” has been a lonely, dirty word in my vocabulary for so long?
In other words, when did I re-open to the idea that I truly am surrounded by a supportive, loving network in every area of my life? And that they have always probably been there, just waiting for me to let them in?
I think I know: Flowdreaming has helped me get real. Really real. You know what that means?
It means telling people I love them. A lot.
It means letting go of my old-style, stand-offish, “I can do it alone, I don’t need your help, you wouldn’t help me anyway, I’ll do it better myself anyway,” way of thinking.
It means trusting that no matter what I try, I’ll have the resources (and that includes people) I need.
It means that I’m finally surrounding myself with the kind of people who are like me.
Who you Flow with is who you become.
And honestly, it’s scary to become a team player. What if people let you down? What if they aren’t there when you need them? What if you get betrayed, or they quit, dump you, or tell you something hurtful?
Well so what.
These are all feelings that keep your teams away from you-that keep you isolated.
I’ve got news for you: Your walls-the ones that keep love and your teams at arm’s reach-aren’t real. You just put them up and then got used to the feeling that no one loves you or cares.
They do care. We all do. People are just waiting to express their love for you.
Nothing in you is unlovable. Nothing in you makes you a loner.
If you’ve been one for too long, please consider changing this belief about yourself.
The time is now to give it up.
(Or you can keep carrying it for years-it’s up to you.)
Your gorgeous, bright Flow of Being knows exactly where your teammates are. Your Flow will surround you with them. Let it. Who can you call on for help, today?
I’d love to know who you’re going to call on for help. Who is on your team? How did it feel to break out of your self-imposed shell? Let’s share by posting below.
My love to you all, truly.