You’ve blown my mind. Over 200 of you replied to my last blog, “No More Pretty,” or emailed me personally with love.
Wow, has this been a big a lesson for me.
First of all, I wrote that newsletter (about my new bald life) to give you permission to let go of any hidden need to come across to the world a certain way.
I wanted you to share in my liberation by finding one of your own hidden needs to release.
So I asked you to post your personal liberation, or revelation, whatever that may be.
You know what you all told me instead? That I’m pretty no matter what. Holy heck that was sweet.
Even my hairdresser texted me that I rocked the fake Mohawk in my photo (and good god she sure hasn’t seen me for awhile!).
And it overwhelmed me. All of it.
Because of course it gave rise to another thought: I’m not a loner or a solo flyer anymore. I can drop that belief now.
So there I was thinking about this as I was zipping up the freeway to Long Beach for my next cancer treatment. My mother was driving and as usual we were getting lost and chatting about work, life, kids, and yeah, chemo.
The whole time, my phone was beeping and buzzing with your comments pouring in.
And I’m wondering: “All these people really care. Why?!”
And that’s when I realized that you all are part of my team. Right there in the car with me.
You think you’re learning from me, perhaps, about Flowdreaming, and manifesting, intuition, power-building, emotional clearing, healing”¦or any of my favorite subjects.
But this year, you’ve also been teaching me.
So let’s talk TEAM. Because bingo, you’re on it.
I’ve never thought of myself as a team player. I didn’t do team sports. I had to thrash my way through the corporate world, never building the bridges I’d wanted to build. I finally decided I just wasn’t a good boss, that everyone was too competitive and I wasn’t clever enough to compete. I didn’t think I was a very good networker either, or even an especially good friend. Not a team player. Does not play well with others.
And there things stood for a long, long while.
Then something changed.
I think it really started with my private coaching students, and then with M.E. School.
I just wanted to teach what I knew. What I’d been born with (the intuition) or discovered (the Flow), or nurtured painfully into my awareness over my life (such as the processes and techniques to trigger the awakenings I needed).
And so a tribe came, in huge numbers.
But what’s happened as well-almost a side-effect- is that every relationship in my life has deepened or expanded these last few years.
I gained a team. No, wait…teams.
My team of coaches and my M.E. School, Personal Mastery, and Diamond students keep me growing and pushing into new insights and strength-for them as much as for me.
My team of health care professionals (oncologists, acupuncturists, massage therapists, personal trainer, and holistic health practitioners) show me how to stay healthy.
My team of over 48 friends (I didn’t know I had 48 friends!) signed up on my MealTrain calendar to help me (a cool website where people can bring you meals when you’re going through a health crisis).
My family regularly comes to clean my house, wash my clothes, watch the kids, and give Charles and me a break.
My team of employees stepped in when I asked them very humbly to help me “hold my baby business” this year while I underwent treatment. And they have done so beautifully.
Which has all made me seriously ask myself, a former “solo flyer,” How the hell did I create this?? How did I become part of all these loving, caring teams when “Team” has been a lonely, dirty word in my vocabulary for so long?
In other words, when did I re-open to the idea that I truly am surrounded by a supportive, loving network in every area of my life? And that they have always probably been there, just waiting for me to let them in?
I think I know: Flowdreaming has helped me get real. Really real. You know what that means?
It means telling people I love them. A lot.
It means letting go of my old-style, stand-offish, “I can do it alone, I don’t need your help, you wouldn’t help me anyway, I’ll do it better myself anyway,” way of thinking.
It means trusting that no matter what I try, I’ll have the resources (and that includes people) I need.
It means that I’m finally surrounding myself with the kind of people who are like me.
Who you Flow with is who you become.
And honestly, it’s scary to become a team player. What if people let you down? What if they aren’t there when you need them? What if you get betrayed, or they quit, dump you, or tell you something hurtful?
Well so what.
These are all feelings that keep your teams away from you-that keep you isolated.
I’ve got news for you: Your walls-the ones that keep love and your teams at arm’s reach-aren’t real. You just put them up and then got used to the feeling that no one loves you or cares.
They do care. We all do. People are just waiting to express their love for you.
Nothing in you is unlovable. Nothing in you makes you a loner.
If you’ve been one for too long, please consider changing this belief about yourself.
The time is now to give it up.
(Or you can keep carrying it for years-it’s up to you.)
Your gorgeous, bright Flow of Being knows exactly where your teammates are. Your Flow will surround you with them. Let it. Who can you call on for help, today?
I’d love to know who you’re going to call on for help. Who is on your team? How did it feel to break out of your self-imposed shell? Let’s share by posting below.
My love to you all, truly.
challenging, exciting, moving, thought provoking…as ever….you never fail to say something important – love and gratitude to you Summer xxx
You know Summer, I have been a loner, just cause there aren’t too many people I have that I am close to….for many reasons, ie loosing best friend to cancer, being busy just surviving….serving a high maintenance supportive life style for a husband and child I love and just making ends meet with our passion full Holistic Business. There are success stories and I have seen even a Brain Cancer patient seen results in two weeks, six months to live client, beaming with energy, jogging and glowing….
So it is hard to form a team…but I surely would love to do so,
always with infinite love and gratitude
Sarita
atozholistic@gmail.com
You always came across very beautifully to me. A wonderful spirit with a very beautiful vibe. Much love to you.
Hi Summer, and thank you for sharing with us the details of your recovery pathway. I am not alone when I read your articles and think…ooh gosh…that could happen to me. Reading about these things that life is throwing your way, I feel more prepared for my own upcoming disasters. More importantly, as a longtime fan who has a personal interest in your well-being, I am assured that you are doing o.k. Trust me when I tell you that if you could see yourself from our angle (your readers), you would be delighted. To put it into words, i’ll just say this. Summer, you have always had a way of blessing us with sunshine and flowers via your communication. Whether trying to explain to us concepts that few understand…and fewer can explain…or…telling us about your personal life dealing with a less than pleasant subject, like cancer, you have always been able to communicate exactly what we need to hear, when we need to hear it. Thank You for everything, and we look forward to seeing our true selves shine brightly through you, as you share more about your experiences in the future. Thanks again and Namaste!
Im two years cancer free, lost my hair , run my own business. Thought I would be private about it and have my team cover for me then the hair feel out and so did my walls. I was engulfed by the love and support of every client, dog and team member I have. It was overwhelming and humbling. Like having a baby , your not the same person after cancer. I am two years clean and could not be more grateful! The moment I starting Flowdreaming through Mindvalley, I felt immediate ah ha moment. This is just what my soul needs. I hope to get in the M.E. school. Congrats on beating the cancer!!! Loving kindness to you and yours.
Dear Summer,
I meant to write in last time but I was bogged down with some other stuff. I too have been ‘clearing the way’ or getting out of my own way. I had a health scare a year ago, I’d lost my job and a relationship. I can honestly say I could see what was happening .. what was in my flow but I didn’t necessarily want there. I was just too nice, too aware of other people’s feelings to stop the momentum. A year on I’ve made a big difference to all of that. I wish you weren’t ill but maybe you signed up for this experience on some level .. to help yourself or to help others .. or both. But I don’t want to lay anything on you. This is your path with your unique experience and you’re being very brave to share that with us. Just be sure to know that we each touch more lives than we know and a cosmic level we’re all in this together .. but some of us just don’t have that awareness and therein lies our suffering. But you know don’t you? HWe’re right behind you. Much love to you Summer, your cosmic friend, Melanie 😉
I’m honored to be on your team, truly. Flowdreaming, and your guidance, have done and continue to do absolutely amazing things in my life. So glad you are feeling loved and supporte!. I am excited to see where Flowdreaming takes me in the future. I have renewed hope in life in part because of this. Bless you on your journey today and always.for every soul you bless, you are blessed in kind. And you bless so many so profoundy. This I know. ?
Awe Sweet Spirit We are all in this with you, even though you may think that you are so alone in your Journey the Journey is all of us connected. You are having the Human experience that so many have had and so many of us will have. We empower ourselves and cheer each other on for every challenge and successes we have. Your job here on Earth is not done with your message you have much more to give and receive. Breathe! you are a huge glowing light that we are all attracted too you have much more to give even though you feel like Shit! Rest is on the menu and Thank You for being you a Conduit to Earths Energies.
Dearest Summer,
Your Flowdreaming sampler opened a whole new world of trust and surrender for me. And as I sampled it, I felt how wonderful it is to be real and accept people and their uniqueness. I was listening to your voice for the first time and I said she’s so real and she is baring her feelings and vulnerability with strength and character all her own which made me want to embrace that in myself too. To trust, to be authentic, to be real and to believe and see something beyond this reality. And you took me there… I wanted to tell you how beautiful that feeling was to see that road going before me and so far, it did open a lot of doors for me and it made me trust that there;s something much much more beautiful waiting to happen because I was part of creating it. It continues to amaze me to this day. You are beautiful and powerful and a real alchemist. You can create anything by transforming any energy to a loving thought that empowers. I believe that all these TEAMS and people you are hearing from is a magnificent reflection of your world which entered ours because we also let you in when you showed us the door to make our lives much bigger. My biggest aha moment is asking help for people who appear right now in front of me whoever it is. The mere fact that they appear there is a reason that the Universe is gifting their presence to me. And so, I have learned to open up these people with just the intention to care about who they are and in the end they have something for me all along. They’re presents but we need to open them to reveal the gift. So everyday the TEAM expands because I don’t limit it to anyone. Who appears in front of me is the gift for the day! May your life continue to light up yours and our world! Lots of people love you Summer and you have all created us within you. Much love, Maria
Thank you Summer for being you and expressing how you truly feel which speaks so loudly to all of us. You have helped me so much understand myself and how to navigate the world on an emotional level and through flow dreaming, when I feel so much and you know when people are being truthful or not. I look forward to reading your posts and knowing that we are all together in expressing how we feel to others and in doing this understanding that we are not alone. I feel as a woman growing up I have been suppressed emotionally and shamed for my feelings and emotions and now it is a time for us all to be able to share what we truly feel. Thank you so much with lots of love and healing and blessings to you
Frances xx
I feel a lot of what you described. I finally made my peace with the idea that I can’t do it alone, much to my chagrin. It is a process of letting people in, slowly, after divorce. I am letting Spirit in to help more, mostly. Things come together better that way. You are a bright and shining star, Summer. I have another lovely young woman I listen to on podcast, her name is Samantha Fey on Psychic Teachers. She is young and beautiful like you, and went through cancer a few years ago. I keep thinking I need to introduce you, so here is the link to her blog: http://crystal-chick.blogspot.com/2012/05/ode-to-my-breast.html
Love you, Shelley
I recently listened to a talk by Brene Brown on an Oprah show….she was talking about what it means to be and to have what she calls “marble jar” people. People we can trust with anything! I had to think about that. I have a few-but not many. I am that for a few-but not many. I have been betrayed- and I have betrayed confidences a few times.
But you’re right! It doesn’t mean we need to keep those walls up. I for one don’t deserve to isolate when there are people whom I know really care. I tend to isolate at those times when I most need a loving hand! Why is that? I don’t want to “bother” anyone with my problems? I also know when someone trusts me enough to call me for help-even if just an ear, I am so grateful that he/she thought of ME..very humbling.
Summer, although I have subscribed to you for several months, I confess I have lost touch..part of it being I went on the amazing Holy Land tour with Anita and Immaculee and Robert Holden. But I am back and as full of gratitude as before I left . You really are beautiful and I promise to start listening again!
Summer: I was deeply moved by your recent emails. As I have been undergoing a dramatic awakening over the past year I have been following several personalities on their respective websites. I know and accept they – and you – are running a business, but there is also the sincerity some – though not all – have in truly helping people on their earth journey. Your recent emails have not contained any sales pitches, just the truth. That is so very powerful and the Love in the air is overwhelming. The group consciousness has reared its beautiful head to let us all know that by helping each other with whatever gift we may have to offer – big or small – creates a reality that swells our hearts and makes everything seem just perfect. Thank you. Steve
Dearest Summer,
Thank you for sharing this extremely powerful lessons on vulnerability. I have been in this process of understanding and learning so much you can receive when you get the shields down. Beautiful lessons on bonding. Unleashing the power of your heart. Magic starts happening.
Summer: YOU ARE NOT ALONE! I am here for you. From my heart. Sending you blessings. Trusting every second of your path is for a higher healing.
Love,
Sandra Rubio
Summer, first I’d like to say that we care about you because whether you are aware of it or not, we FEEL your caring. You are also amazing and brilliant in the way that feeds the soul (and other ways too…it’s obvious you’re very smart!). Sorry about the gushing, I really mean it, and I think this is generally how the others feel.
I guess we are like you: I can relate to the not doing well in team sports in school, being a loner, not wanting to ask for help or bother anyone.
I’m trying to think who I’ve called on for help. A few of my friends and even people I didn’t know that well have helped me in the past, but I can’t say I approached them and asked. I’ll be thinking about this. I actually have two friends that if I needed, I know they would help me if I asked. I don’t know quite yet how easy it would be for me to ask.
Palma Lee
Ok, so no surprise that last night I had a dream about you and here you are in my inbox.
In the dream I called you on the phone and you were laughing with your family so hard that you could barely say ‘hello.’ It was fantastic! You tried to excuse yourself and I said “this is the best possible way anyone could ever answer a phone call, thank you so much for sharing it with me.”
I heard that you and your family were so happy and relieved because the treatment was going even better than you could have imagined, you outdid yourself with the manifesting.
Also, and this is so random, but you had misplaced a document, and you asked me to practice my intuition. I said it was by or in the printer, which it was. So, if you are missing any paperwork you might want to check there. LOL!
xoxo
Therese
Summer, you have gifted the World with your very presence, and the fact that you have brought Flowdreaming to us all is just a brilliantly shining sidebar. We honour the Light that is You as we should all honour our own light.
Many blessings
Leslie