“No, I refuse to change you. And damn! … That makes me so happy!”

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What is it that makes us think we can change people? How many times have you found yourself wishing that your romantic partner would do something you wanted, or not do something, or somehow meet your needs by changing somehow? How often have you wished the same about a parent, or sibling, or child? “If they’d just do this, or give me that, or stop doing this…”

A cardinal rule of Flowdreaming is that you are a magnificently powerful being…but your power extends only to YOU and YOUR OWN LIFE. Anyone else…well they’re also incredibly powerful…in their own life.

As long as you stick with manifesting for yourself, you’re going to prosper. Once you start trying to change someone else, you’re going to hit walls. Why?

Flowdreamer wins $1.5 million: Lynn’s story

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I’m amazed at the email in my inbox. Can a Flowdreamer have really just won $1,425,000?

Yes. Lynn Hunter’s email subject line says it all: “Flowdreaming changed my life.” She writes:

My dear Summer, I have been listening to your tapes, reading your books and following you and your mother’s advice for the past few years now. Even when things were not going so well for me, I never gave up my flowdreaming path. I am happy to tell you my dreams came true on August 24th, 2010. I won $1,452,130.64 at our local casino. I do have a vision board with one million dollars on it, a new car, and pictures of a new kitchen. Summer I now have it all thanks to your flowdreaming and my strong believing things will come. I have mentioned to many friends and my own daughters just how you have changed my way of thinking. I share my books and tapes. Now I need to replace them!! Just hearing your voice every day is power to me. There is so much more I could go on and on about, I just felt you should know  what flowdreaming has done for me. Now I can afford to someday see you live. – Lynn Hunter

I’ve been asking people to let me know what Flowdreaming has helped them with in their lives. Lynn’s email flowed in with the dozens of others I’ve been receiving. It’s one thing to read my books or listen to me rambling on during my radio show each week about the broad, supportive, almost “magical” power of Flow energy in all of our lives. It’s quite another thing to read about other people’s extraordinary successes.

I’ve always been reluctant to promise anyone that the Flow can MAKE them lucky. Just as I would never promise anyone a miracle. How could I? It’s THEIR Flow. THEY are the creators in their lives, not me!! But have I seen miracles happen? Have I helped “unplug” things and get energy moving for people? Oh, yes!

 

5 tips for using Flow to increase the intimacy in your relationships

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Here are a few Flow-inspired tips to infuse all your relationships with more love and less conflict. While we can’t change other people, per se, we CAN change the energy that surrounds our relationship and our interactions within them. And of course, that starts within ourselves. So, these five tips will help you cultivate good, loving, open energy within yourself. As they say…change begins within.

1. Break out the honesty.
Very often the source of our frustrations is our fear that our loved one will not accept how we feel or what we need in a situation. Honesty needs to be purposefully developed and cultured. It often doesn’t just happen by itself, especially if we grew up in homes where honesty wasn’t the norm. When we expect that what we need and feel won’t be honored, we either clam up or stuff down our needs. If the idea of being honest and open sends shivers of fear up your spine, then you know you REALLY need this tip: Create a list of relationship issues with various loved ones that you want be more open about, and work your way up by starting with the easiest first. In your Flow, pre-act scenarios where you are open and honest, and feel the relief and acceptance when you do so. This opens the energies to allowing honesty into your relationships in a safe, comfortable way.

Your Flowdreaming program: simplified

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This Article is part of Flowdreaming.com’s free Online Learning Library.

People often want to know how to get started Flowdreaming. So, I’ve put together the simple program that follows.

The technique of Flowdreaming has three components:

1. Awareness of Flow energy

2. Strong, directed emotion

3. Guided daydreaming

First, remember that your mind or consciousness is already adrift in this Flow. After all, it’s made of this energy. Your brain creates, stores, and synthesizes data, but it does so more like a quantum computer would-using quantum Flow energy instead of regular electricity. So your mind is already in the Flow, at all times. But you need to convince yourself of it, so this where guided daydreaming comes in. When you daydream, your mind seems to “detach itself” from your exterior surroundings. It “goes” somewhere, and you often don’t even realize it. Well, instead of “drifting off” unaware into a fantasy, in Flowdreaming, you pay attention to where you’re going. You still drift-but you watch where you’re drifting, similar to having a lucid dream.

This means you close your eyes, and let your mind wander. Daydream. Bring up an image that makes you think about the concept of Flow. Maybe you see a beautiful, winding river of light with an internal “aliveness” so it knows exactly where it’s going. Or, you see a starry sky with a glittering path that weaves through space, surrounded by strings of light energy moving in and out of complex and beautiful patterns all around you. Or maybe you see an ocean of light, with a current that tugs and pulls you gently toward a perfect destination.

What is Flow energy?: A brief explanation

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This Article is part of Flowdreaming.com’s free Online Learning Library.

Flowdreaming is a technique that lets you reshape your world-literally. It’s not meditation, or hypnosis, or based on positive affirmations or any other kind of program you may already know. It’s unique, and its purpose is to help you access the creative, energetic “underside” of life, so you can sculpt and direct your future.

It’s a big promise, but once you learn this technique, it will feel so simple and natural that you’ll wonder how you never knew about it before.

What Is Flow?

Flow is like a net or ocean of energy that runs over, under, around, and through everything in our Universe. It’s an energy of information, or a giant collection of data about everything that is, was, or potentially may be. And this net of energy or “information” has its own kind of internal, intrinsic awareness.

Imagine if every single thing in our universe had an inner understanding of what it was, or an awareness of its internal structure, or a consciousness of itself, on some very deep level. And all this consciousness put together-all this collected information or awareness- is what everything is actually made of. The physical things in life (apples, TVs, thoughts, wind) are just expressions of this awareness that take a physical form.

Rejection Is cold company

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A good friend of mine had to shake me out of my gloom yesterday. “Rejection is a good thing,” he told me. “It means you’re still putting yourself out there. You’re still in the game. You stop being rejected, then you’re in the bleachers, not on the bench.”

You can guess what kind of “go leap off a cliff” look I gave him. When you’re blue, it’s hard to hear any kind of pick-me-up talk, even from people who care about you.

You see, I’ve been feeling passed over a lot lately, like the dish at the picnic that no one tries. The kid not picked for the team, while all her buddies pick each other. The girl waiting to be asked to the dance, while all her best guy friends ask someone else. Rejection is an experience that comes early and the sting stays, no matter how old we get. Psychology Today has a good article that explains why it’s necessary that we carry around such deep emotional responses to rejection.

Do you have a destiny? What has God planned for you?

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I receive a variation of this question about fate and destiny almost weekly. Here’s what came to my inbox this week:

Hi Summer,

I am excited to be writing to you. I just discovered Flowdreaming ten minutes ago, and I wanted to ask something. My Flow is equal to my thoughts and my emotions, and they tell the universe what I want. I understand that. I’m at a point in my life where I’m learning about Law of Attraction . . . but I do not fully grasp the difference between what God intends for you compared to what you want and gain for yourself. Could you help me please? -Lavana

Lavana, when you awaken to the idea that you are a powerful creator within your own life, this can bring up a conflict in your mind. You wonder, How can I create if some things were already pre-planned for me? You might think some events or people are there by fate, karma, or because it is God’s plan.

Best resources to learn Flowdreaming

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Today’s post is a little unusual for me. Most of the time, I write about situations in my own life and how I’ve applied the Flow perspective to them. Or, I talk about solutions to the emailed questions that readers send to me, or ways, generally, we can look at our life and understand why we have what we have, and what to do about it if it “ain’t so great.”

So please grant me this exception…you see, a few weeks ago my second book about Flowdreaming came out. It’s called Creative Flowdreaming. And hot on the book’s heels is my other new project: a 6-month online course called,The Art of Flowdreaming, to teach you how to become a Manifesting Practitioner in your own life.

Between these two, you can learn everything you need to know to make real, concrete changes in your own life. First, it isn’t another “Law of Attraction” book. (LOL, I think just about anything worth being said on that has been said.)

Instead, Creative Flowdreaming takes you deep into what living in the Flow really means. Sure, the first few chapters lay out the nuts and bolts of the technique, and give you a thorough introduction to the art of manifesting in general, but from there, I go into the deeper questions that I’ve encountered over the years. Questions that are usually deal-breakers for the inexperienced manifestor,

Your ideas: Lead … or gold?

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I suffer from the “great idea” syndrome. In other words, I’m always thinking of what I think are good ideas. Then I (often) fruitlessly try to get other people to go along with them. What I’ve had to learn over the years is this: 1) not everyone will see the value in what I offer, 2) if I feel strongly about my idea, then I’m probably going to have to make headway on it myself and quit waiting for other people to help me, and 3) if it genuinely is a great idea, then my Flow will likewise scoop me up and help smooth the way for its implementation.

Let’s start with #1. For many years, I’ve been in a position where I’ve offered some excellent business ideas to someone.

How to know what you should be doing with your life

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Alright, this post is blatant rip off from Brazen Careerist. I read Penelope Trunk’s blog regularly, not because I’m always looking for business advice, but because I like her. She’s someone with just enough neurosis-and personality-to fit well in my own quirky family of renegade thinkers. For instance, she’s always telling us that to do well in business, you just have to be likable, not skilled. And because of her, I’ve decided that I’m not particularly likable. Though I am highly skilled.

Anyway, she posted recently about how to find your life’s work. Now, this is coming from a woman who’s written for yahoo business, and other fancy big-name sites. Penelope has also worked for corporations-as have I. She’s had start-ups. So have I. And she’s got young kids in the midst of it all. So do I. So I was curious to see her advice, and after I read it, I thought, Gee, what would I say?”