I receive a variation of this question about fate and destiny almost weekly. Here’s what came to my inbox this week:
Hi Summer,
I am excited to be writing to you. I just discovered Flowdreaming ten minutes ago, and I wanted to ask something. My Flow is equal to my thoughts and my emotions, and they tell the universe what I want. I understand that. I’m at a point in my life where I’m learning about Law of Attraction . . . but I do not fully grasp the difference between what God intends for you compared to what you want and gain for yourself. Could you help me please? —Lavana
Lavana, when you awaken to the idea that you are a powerful creator within your own life, this can bring up a conflict in your mind. You wonder, How can I create if some things were already pre-planned for me? You might think some events or people are there by fate, karma, or because it is God’s plan.
What I’ve seen over the years is this: when you begin looking at your life from a pure energy perspective, it’s like looking out at a super-highway, with a million “lanes” of light in front of you. You’re more likely to speed down some of these lanes than others, based on where you want to go, and what roads you’ve already put yourself on.
So things do come to you with a feeling of inevitability sometimes—because you’ve been cultivating (or driving down) that path, probably unknowingly, for a long, long time. Think of the energy of all your thoughts, actions, and feelings spooling out ahead of you in life. These arcs of energy pull in things complementary to what you’re now experiencing. When you begin to consciously change these arcs or paths of energetic attraction, you’re purposely swerving into a new lane.
If you say, What has God planned for me? then from a full Flowthinking perspective, you would rephrase that question instead to say, What new experiences can I give to God?There’s a lot of depth behind this question, which I fully answer in chapters 8, 9, and 10 of Creative Flowdreaming. God is not planning for you; God is receiving from you. God is curious to know what kinds of experiences you bring to It, and what you’ll make from the sandbox of physical life It has given to you. (You can also learn more about this perspective through this CD, which I made with my mother, Venus.)
If you believe that you are here for a reason, or to meet a soul mate, or for some other destined event, then ask your own Greater Self when, where, and how this desire will fruit for you. Ask God, too, to allow this new experience to flow easily into your life. Don’t wait for God’s plan, make your own and offer it up to God.
It may take awhile for this new understanding of destiny to settle in. But after awhile, you’ll come to see how fate, prophesy, and destiny are merely strong potentials that may or may not come into play in your life, like an ace or a deuce turning up in your hand of cards. This is good thing, because it means you can now work with God and come into an understanding of the godliness in yourself, instead of being at the mercy of God, when designing your own life.
Tags: destiny, god, how to manifest, law of attraction, life purpose, soul, source energy, Spirituality, Synchronicity
Summer,
I read your book “Creative Flowdreaming” and it is by far the most useful book I have ever read. I keep it by my bedside and reread chapters that pertain to what is happening to my life. Thank you for writing it.
Most interesting is your vision of how God is inside each of us. We are source. I am just wondering, what do you think happens to us when we die? Do you believe in a heaven? Reincarnation?
I love your work,
Kori
Great post Summer. Ii just was conversing with someone Saturday about all of this and he said the same thing you did about paths and potentials different outcomes. Fascinating stuff! Keep it up!
As far as destiny or career goals , what if you 2 in mind and wonder about focusing on one or the other or if you can do both?Should I just focus on both where my passion is in both?
I have just read some of your idealology and philosophies and find it quite troublesome. I have been married for 22 years. I had two daughters from a previous marriage when we met. He loved them and they called him Daddy. We married and had a son. He was also married before. He was only married for 9 months because he caught his wife “in bed” with his best friend. They divorced and he “hated” her. Our middle daughter grew up and became a drug addict. She is a wonderful person with a horrible disease. She and her husband (also an addict) had two children. My husband and I gained custody of our grandchildren two years ago. The little boy is 5 and loves grandpa more than anything. The little girls is 2 and also loves her grandpa. My husband has not worked for 8 years. He got caught stealing from his job and was fired. He had an on-th-job injury and has been collecting L&I. Five neck surgeries later, he is still not working. I, on the other hand, have workied my butt off. I am a restaurant manager and I work nights. My husband was becoming more and more depressed and I begged him to get help. He took care of the children while I worked. When I came home from work, the kids would be asleep and he would be on the computer (usually gambling and drinking beer). I asked him to please not do that when he is caring for children. That was the most of our discussion. Here is where I get confused. My husband left me and the children in the middle of the night about a month and a half ago. He said he was “getting a new life elsewhere”. He wouldnt tell anyone where he was going or what he was doing. We still dont know where he lives. I discovered that he had looked up his ex-wife on Facebook and they were secretly meeting behind my back. I confronted him about this and he said that she had become his best friend and “Life-coach”. I was devistated. I looked her up on Facebook and lo and behold…she is an avid follower of YOU!!!!! Her name is Jeanne Gilroy Roth and my husband is Paul Savage. Now let me tell you how Flow Dreaming has affected my life. He is selfishly working on “being lucky” and manifesting happiness with his life coach. I am a single-hard-working grandmother of two small children. I am forced to move from my home because I can no longer afford it without my husband. I am forced to find night-care for the children. My oldest daughter who just had her first born child is now forced to take care of my two grandchildren while I work. I love my husband and married him for better or worse. He did the same but is not keeping his promise. His Flow-Dreaming has negatively impacted the life of small children, his daughters and our son. I can not believe that you preach that kind of SELFISHNESS to Jeanne Gilroy Roth or anyone else. I stood by him through all of the crap he put us through. His dishonesty, drinking, gambling, 5 neck surgeries, mothers’ death, etc., etc. and for all of that he abandons his family!