Comments on: Your Ideas: Lead … or Gold? http://flowdreaming.com/blog/2009/03/12/your-ideas-lead-or-gold/ Wed, 28 Dec 2011 22:41:20 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: rena http://flowdreaming.com/blog/2009/03/12/your-ideas-lead-or-gold/comment-page-1/#comment-105 rena Mon, 16 Mar 2009 20:50:45 +0000 http://flowdreaming.com/blog/?p=147#comment-105 Gael, You are most welcome. Thank you for taking the time to acknowledge my comment. A nice give and take... Have Fun! Rena Gael,
You are most welcome. Thank you for taking the time to acknowledge my comment. A nice give and take…
Have Fun!
Rena

]]> By: Gael http://flowdreaming.com/blog/2009/03/12/your-ideas-lead-or-gold/comment-page-1/#comment-101 Gael Sun, 15 Mar 2009 18:27:24 +0000 http://flowdreaming.com/blog/?p=147#comment-101 Rena, Thanks for your comment. It was definitely meant for me (and probably others, too. Thanks, too Summer for all you do! Gael Rena's comment: "...you only want the best for everyone. I see you as having positive and loving motivations. I would also suggest that those involved also have the same motivations. Working from that assumption, you could find all involved faultless, let everyone be who they are and love them just the way they are. This may take some time and emotional distance, but ultimately may serve all involved. You would then stand in your power because you are now choosing how you want to feel, not being blown about by every wind." Rena,
Thanks for your comment. It was definitely meant for me (and probably others, too. Thanks, too Summer for all you do!
Gael
Rena’s comment:
“…you only want the best for everyone. I see you as having positive and loving motivations. I would also suggest that those involved also have the same motivations. Working from that assumption, you could find all involved faultless, let everyone be who they are and love them just the way they are. This may take some time and emotional distance, but ultimately may serve all involved. You would then stand in your power because you are now choosing how you want to feel, not being blown about by every wind.”

]]> By: rena http://flowdreaming.com/blog/2009/03/12/your-ideas-lead-or-gold/comment-page-1/#comment-100 rena Sat, 14 Mar 2009 12:05:32 +0000 http://flowdreaming.com/blog/?p=147#comment-100 Hello Summer;) "This has probably happened to you, too, somewhere in your life. Someone you care about (it could be your mom, brother, friend, or even your boss) doesn’t value your opinion, and since you judge your own value based on what they think of you, you always lose out. What can you do about this? What can I do about this?" There is a dynamic to this; it has to do with investment of ourselves in others. Somewhere in the psychology teachings there is the concept that when we do something for someone else we actually become invested in their success. So if I gave you something or did something for you, I would become more invested in your success. It is like a "Join Up" in the energies. This is only natural, we all do this to some extent depending on what the nature of the relationship is. My sense is that the answer lies in experimentation. And so I suggest (invest) that you think of questions about the situation and find an answer that feels better to you than the ones you have found so far. You could ask yourself: How is my desire to help them making them feel? Am I able to communicate clearly with them? Are they being intentionally malicious? How would I feel if I hadn't made the investment? What would I have missed out on if I had chosen differently? (you will know the most appropriate questions and they probably aren't listed here) If your answers lead you to blame, shame, guilt, judgement or some other useless emotion then you will probably want to change the questions or follow the feeling more. Let it flow out behind you in your flow, nudge, nudge, wink, wink... I know Summer that you only want the best for everyone. I see you as having positive and loving motivations. I would also suggest that those involved also have the same motivations. Working from that assumption, you could find all involved faultless, let everyone be who they are and love them just the way they are. This may take some time and emotional distance, but ultimately may serve all involved. You would then stand in your power because you are now choosing how you want to feel, not being blown about by every wind. My sense at this point is that this is an answer for someone else, maybe not so much for you. Thanks so much for all that you do. All my best to you and yours Miss Summer:) Rena Hello Summer;)

“This has probably happened to you, too, somewhere in your life. Someone you care about (it could be your mom, brother, friend, or even your boss) doesn’t value your opinion, and since you judge your own value based on what they think of you, you always lose out. What can you do about this? What can I do about this?”

There is a dynamic to this; it has to do with investment of ourselves in others. Somewhere in the psychology teachings there is the concept that when we do something for someone else we actually become invested in their success. So if I gave you something or did something for you, I would become more invested in your success. It is like a “Join Up” in the energies. This is only natural, we all do this to some extent depending on what the nature of the relationship is.

My sense is that the answer lies in experimentation. And so I suggest (invest) that you think of questions about the situation and find an answer that feels better to you than the ones you have found so far.

You could ask yourself:
How is my desire to help them making them feel?
Am I able to communicate clearly with them?
Are they being intentionally malicious?
How would I feel if I hadn’t made the investment?
What would I have missed out on if I had chosen differently?
(you will know the most appropriate questions and they probably aren’t listed here)

If your answers lead you to blame, shame, guilt, judgement or some other useless emotion then you will probably want to change the questions or follow the feeling more. Let it flow out behind you in your flow, nudge, nudge, wink, wink…

I know Summer that you only want the best for everyone. I see you as having positive and loving motivations. I would also suggest that those involved also have the same motivations. Working from that assumption, you could find all involved faultless, let everyone be who they are and love them just the way they are. This may take some time and emotional distance, but ultimately may serve all involved. You would then stand in your power because you are now choosing how you want to feel, not being blown about by every wind.

My sense at this point is that this is an answer for someone else, maybe not so much for you.

Thanks so much for all that you do.
All my best to you and yours Miss Summer:)

Rena

]]> By: Linda http://flowdreaming.com/blog/2009/03/12/your-ideas-lead-or-gold/comment-page-1/#comment-99 Linda Sat, 14 Mar 2009 01:54:21 +0000 http://flowdreaming.com/blog/?p=147#comment-99 Just think Summer, had you not had the confidence to be a "go for it" personality, with all of your other ideas, you wouldn't be the successful person that you are today. Your amazing ideas have helped so many of us. I say to always follow your inner instincts. I always remember the movie "The Absent Minded Professor" where the scientist invents flubber...many thought his ideas were crazy, but he didn't listen and followed his passion. You are so right with this post, and, for some it is hard to make that move out of a comfort zone and just act on an idea. Great post to share...thanks again! Just think Summer, had you not had the confidence to be a “go for it” personality, with all of your other ideas, you wouldn’t be the successful person that you are today. Your amazing ideas have helped so many of us. I say to always follow your inner instincts. I always remember the movie “The Absent Minded Professor” where the scientist invents flubber…many thought his ideas were crazy, but he didn’t listen and followed his passion. You are so right with this post, and, for some it is hard to make that move out of a comfort zone and just act on an idea. Great post to share…thanks again!

]]> By: Amy http://flowdreaming.com/blog/2009/03/12/your-ideas-lead-or-gold/comment-page-1/#comment-98 Amy Sat, 14 Mar 2009 01:27:14 +0000 http://flowdreaming.com/blog/?p=147#comment-98 What a relief to read your post! I recognized myself. I look forward to your follow-up post because I do feel paralyzed. I've even stopped trying to have ideas since so many of them seem so big that I don't know where to start. When I have tried to start an idea, they haven't gone anywhere. Thump! Glad to know I not the only one. What a relief to read your post! I recognized myself. I look forward to your follow-up post because I do feel paralyzed. I’ve even stopped trying to have ideas since so many of them seem so big that I don’t know where to start. When I have tried to start an idea, they haven’t gone anywhere. Thump!

Glad to know I not the only one.

]]> By: Jesse http://flowdreaming.com/blog/2009/03/12/your-ideas-lead-or-gold/comment-page-1/#comment-97 Jesse Fri, 13 Mar 2009 15:01:29 +0000 http://flowdreaming.com/blog/?p=147#comment-97 Fantastic entry! Fantastic entry!

]]> By: Sue Sullivan http://flowdreaming.com/blog/2009/03/12/your-ideas-lead-or-gold/comment-page-1/#comment-96 Sue Sullivan Fri, 13 Mar 2009 14:22:24 +0000 http://flowdreaming.com/blog/?p=147#comment-96 Hi Summer, I've wondered about why some lead ideas stay afloat longer than would be ideal. Enablers makes so much sense, and sometimes I'm the enabler. Knowing when to let go of an idea/project/thing/relationship is so key to staying in the flow and frees me to put my energy into the gold ideas. I love how you put a suggested CD at the bottom of your post. It gives us another tool to work further on the ideas you post. A gold idea! Hi Summer,

I’ve wondered about why some lead ideas stay afloat longer than would be ideal. Enablers makes so much sense, and sometimes I’m the enabler. Knowing when to let go of an idea/project/thing/relationship is so key to staying in the flow and frees me to put my energy into the gold ideas.

I love how you put a suggested CD at the bottom of your post. It gives us another tool to work further on the ideas you post. A gold idea!

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