Comments on: Some People Are Just Not Going to Like You http://flowdreaming.com/blog/2009/02/10/some-people-are-just-not-going-to-like-you/ Sat, 23 Jan 2010 22:33:08 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Don’t Get Weird On Me, But People Don’t Like You… | FinerMinds http://flowdreaming.com/blog/2009/02/10/some-people-are-just-not-going-to-like-you/comment-page-1/#comment-133 Don’t Get Weird On Me, But People Don’t Like You… | FinerMinds Wed, 29 Jul 2009 06:29:15 +0000 http://flowdreaming.com/blog/?p=110#comment-133 [...] Click here to continue reading >> Rate this Article (No Ratings Yet)  Loading ... [...] [...] Click here to continue reading >> Rate this Article (No Ratings Yet)  Loading … [...]

]]> By: pj http://flowdreaming.com/blog/2009/02/10/some-people-are-just-not-going-to-like-you/comment-page-1/#comment-127 pj Wed, 20 May 2009 17:50:02 +0000 http://flowdreaming.com/blog/?p=110#comment-127 I liked what you had to say. I am pretty silly and funny, I guess, I don't know something like that, and it seems there is always someone around who doesnt like me and sometime that makes me all quite and then I don't meet new people, or I hide the part of me that SOME people like, in that way I can end up looking uptight at a party say if someone around me doesn't like me or whatever. I have learned that if I give into a couple of people that don't like me and hide away, well then I don't know anyone and nobody will know me. I have learned (or am trying to learn) how to either ignore that persons energy, I find it really hard, or keep living in spite of them. But sometimes (or all the time) as I am a very open and understanding person, I DO like the person that doesn't like me, I wan't to learn from everyone, but I have had to start looking at them and thinking crazy things like < they wish they were like me, or they are a bore. ... or what not, I am not sure I am just replaceing my positive thoughts with negative ones for them... but it works. I liked what you had to say. I am pretty silly and funny, I guess, I don’t know something like that, and it seems there is always someone around who doesnt like me and sometime that makes me all quite and then I don’t meet new people, or I hide the part of me that SOME people like, in that way I can end up looking uptight at a party say if someone around me doesn’t like me or whatever.

I have learned that if I give into a couple of people that don’t like me and hide away, well then I don’t know anyone and nobody will know me.

I have learned (or am trying to learn) how to either ignore that persons energy, I find it really hard, or keep living in spite of them. But sometimes (or all the time) as I am a very open and understanding person, I DO like the person that doesn’t like me, I wan’t to learn from everyone, but I have had to start looking at them and thinking crazy things like < they wish they were like me, or they are a bore. … or what not, I am not sure I am just replaceing my positive thoughts with negative ones for them… but it works.

]]> By: Elizabeth http://flowdreaming.com/blog/2009/02/10/some-people-are-just-not-going-to-like-you/comment-page-1/#comment-117 Elizabeth Tue, 07 Apr 2009 22:32:47 +0000 http://flowdreaming.com/blog/?p=110#comment-117 You know, when someone doesn't like me, I realize it really isn't about me. They are usually reacting to some truth that I have unveiled that challenges their beliefs or "stuck"ness. And anyway, if they don't like me, they don't like themselves, because if we are all one, and we are all god, then me and that person are both god, and they are only disliking an aspect of god/themself. And that's okay. Some parts of my personality are unlikeable to some people, and that's okay. When I'm REALLY feeling unliked, I remind myself that I'm not here (on earth) to make friends, I'm here to make CHANGE. And people are generally resistant to that. so, the mantra is: I'M NOT HERE TO BE LIKED, I'M HERE TO MAKE CHANGE You know, when someone doesn’t like me, I realize it really isn’t about me. They are usually reacting to some truth that I have unveiled that challenges their beliefs or “stuck”ness. And anyway, if they don’t like me, they don’t like themselves, because if we are all one, and we are all god, then me and that person are both god, and they are only disliking an aspect of god/themself. And that’s okay. Some parts of my personality are unlikeable to some people, and that’s okay. When I’m REALLY feeling unliked, I remind myself that I’m not here (on earth) to make friends, I’m here to make CHANGE. And people are generally resistant to that.
so,
the mantra is:

I’M NOT HERE TO BE LIKED, I’M HERE TO MAKE CHANGE

]]> By: jude http://flowdreaming.com/blog/2009/02/10/some-people-are-just-not-going-to-like-you/comment-page-1/#comment-110 jude Tue, 24 Mar 2009 19:02:02 +0000 http://flowdreaming.com/blog/?p=110#comment-110 one can hear your confidence growing in your voice. one can hear your confidence growing in your voice.

]]> By: María http://flowdreaming.com/blog/2009/02/10/some-people-are-just-not-going-to-like-you/comment-page-1/#comment-108 María Sat, 21 Mar 2009 16:58:35 +0000 http://flowdreaming.com/blog/?p=110#comment-108 I've just discoved this blog and I love it. It's wonderful to see that many people has had similar experiences as me. I've been a pleaser until recently and this was so unpleasant for me. I'm learning to act the way I really want and it's not easy though. The hardest thing is to find out that a person who you though you had a good feeling with, suddenly doesn't like you. But it's even worse to maintain that relationship of disrespect. Thanks Summer for sharing your thoughts with us. María I’ve just discoved this blog and I love it. It’s wonderful to see that many people has had similar experiences as me. I’ve been a pleaser until recently and this was so unpleasant for me. I’m learning to act the way I really want and it’s not easy though. The hardest thing is to find out that a person who you though you had a good feeling with, suddenly doesn’t like you. But it’s even worse to maintain that relationship of disrespect.

Thanks Summer for sharing your thoughts with us.

María

]]> By: OOH I Think S/he Hates Me « The Comeback Girl http://flowdreaming.com/blog/2009/02/10/some-people-are-just-not-going-to-like-you/comment-page-1/#comment-93 OOH I Think S/he Hates Me « The Comeback Girl Mon, 09 Mar 2009 04:54:47 +0000 http://flowdreaming.com/blog/?p=110#comment-93 [...] Summer McStravick, writes: Stop trying to please everyone, and simply please those with whom you create the most mutual benefit. [...] [...] Summer McStravick, writes: Stop trying to please everyone, and simply please those with whom you create the most mutual benefit. [...]

]]> By: Patricia http://flowdreaming.com/blog/2009/02/10/some-people-are-just-not-going-to-like-you/comment-page-1/#comment-81 Patricia Thu, 26 Feb 2009 20:33:35 +0000 http://flowdreaming.com/blog/?p=110#comment-81 Wow...Summer this is such beautiful writing. Gosh, you and I think so much alike. I too suffer from trying to make others happy, which often leaves me drained and stressed because their validation/approval is so important to me. I love your new approach, I need to adopt it more in my own life. Keep up the great work! :) Patricia Wow…Summer this is such beautiful writing. Gosh, you and I think so much alike. I too suffer from trying to make others happy, which often leaves me drained and stressed because their validation/approval is so important to me. I love your new approach, I need to adopt it more in my own life.

Keep up the great work!

:) Patricia

]]> By: David Tipps http://flowdreaming.com/blog/2009/02/10/some-people-are-just-not-going-to-like-you/comment-page-1/#comment-77 David Tipps Tue, 24 Feb 2009 15:52:45 +0000 http://flowdreaming.com/blog/?p=110#comment-77 Dear Summer, Your message reminds me of some of the beautiful messages I've received in AA over the years. I've always learned from the statement "wrecked on the rocks of expectation", wherein my ego needs and expects everyone to think I'm the greatest human being on the planet and when they don't I'm jarred and upset, wondering what's wrong with them? When I don't "expect" everyone to like me I'm ok when someone makes it clear in some way that they don't care for me. The other statement that gives me a lot of peace and guides me is "live, and let live" which needs no explanation. I gain a great deal of self awareness and hope from your messages, thank you so much for all you do. Your upcoming retreat is a good way for me to practice flowdreaming at being there on the beach with you and others, feeling peaceful and excited at learning more of me. May the force be with you. Dave Dear Summer,
Your message reminds me of some of the beautiful messages I’ve received in AA over the years. I’ve always learned from the statement “wrecked on the rocks of expectation”, wherein my ego needs and expects everyone to think I’m the greatest human being on the planet and when they don’t I’m jarred and upset, wondering what’s wrong with them? When I don’t “expect” everyone to like me I’m ok when someone makes it clear in some way that they don’t care for me. The other statement that gives me a lot of peace and guides me is “live, and let live” which needs no explanation. I gain a great deal of self awareness and hope from your messages, thank you so much for all you do. Your upcoming retreat is a good way for me to practice flowdreaming at being there on the beach with you and others, feeling peaceful and excited at learning more of me. May the force be with you. Dave

]]> By: lesley http://flowdreaming.com/blog/2009/02/10/some-people-are-just-not-going-to-like-you/comment-page-1/#comment-76 lesley Tue, 24 Feb 2009 03:58:18 +0000 http://flowdreaming.com/blog/?p=110#comment-76 Dear Summer: "I love you and I'm glad you are in my life." You've helped me tremendously over the past year with the show and the CD's and I always find something new to learn from you. It's interesting; I remember a guest on "Power Thoughts" telling Diane Ray the exact same thing. That no matter what, there will always be someone who won't like you and it's just how life is and that you can't dwell on it. I have been that one person who didn't like something everybody was raving about. I don't feel so alone now. Looking forward to one day taking an in person class. I'm in L.A. so no excuse huh? Dear Summer: “I love you and I’m glad you are in my life.” You’ve helped me tremendously over the past year with the show and the CD’s and I always find something new to learn from you. It’s interesting; I remember a guest on “Power Thoughts” telling Diane Ray the exact same thing. That no matter what, there will always be someone who won’t like you and it’s just how life is and that you can’t dwell on it. I have been that one person who didn’t like something everybody was raving about. I don’t feel so alone now.

Looking forward to one day taking an in person class. I’m in L.A. so no excuse huh?

]]> By: sandi warejcka http://flowdreaming.com/blog/2009/02/10/some-people-are-just-not-going-to-like-you/comment-page-1/#comment-69 sandi warejcka Fri, 20 Feb 2009 01:26:31 +0000 http://flowdreaming.com/blog/?p=110#comment-69 This is good. I have entertained this thought before and was good to hear you say this Summer! Love, Sandi This is good. I have entertained this thought before and was good to hear you say this Summer!

Love,
Sandi

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